I SEE BLOOD.
FUCK!
I am totally confused. I have been charting diligently since Sept. My cycles seemed to be getting back to a somewhat "normal" schedule. Now I am just like what the fuck? In Sept I got my period twice, on Sept 1 = 27 days, Sept 28 = 28 days, October 26th = CD 29, November was a 28 day cycle, then again in Dec back to 29 days and now this month its 30 days!
WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON! No wonder we aren't pregnant yet, my cycles are all fucked up! Has anyone else had this problem?
19 comments:
Oh Erin I am so sorry... I was hoping this was the month for you to conceive. Please don't despair, perhaps the time was just not right yet. I'm certain it will happen for you soon.
Fuck indeed.
so sorry... I was hoping for a sweet excited post this morning.
=(
Erin,
I am in Florida right now and have my laptop with me for work. I have been checking your blog everyday and hoping, hoping, hoping for you. My heart dropped when I read your blog today. You are with me, in my thoughts always!
Amanda
goddammit. that sucks so badly. after my disasters, my cycles were all over the map. i had to really watch the ovulation signs because the calendar wasnt reliable.
man that just really really really sucks. what the fuck? it's not fair. make sure you throw a big, huge, fat, screaming, snotty crying tantrum if need be.
As disappointing and crazy-making as it is, your cycle actually sounds pretty normal to me. Varying a few days from month to month is completely normal. I really, really, really hope you get good news, soon. I'm thinking of you!
I am so upset and disappointed for you! I don't know if this helps or hurts, but my cycles were whacked after my stillbirth. I got pregnant on a day I thought I was getting my period. I never did get my period, just some brown stuff. So 12 or 13 days later, I started using OPKs to chart ovulation and they kept saying positive for about a week. I thought it was early menopause. Then I realized my boobs hurt, then I got a HPT and was shocked it was positive. So maybe the solution is to just have sex all the time!
Oh Erin, I SOOOO know what you are going through. It sucks more than you can say and more than any crying fest will take care of. I'm sorry. After we lost Sophie, I used ovulation strips (which you can get online VERY cheap, do NOT get them at the drug store!). Then I swore I would not get all "scientific" about it and I would just relax. After the miscarriage I said the same thing. And now I'm still not pregnant so I think I might buy some more and just try not to use them all the time? I don't know what the answer is. It just sucks, you know? The thing is that if we were just regular trying to get pregnant, a month or two of it not working would not really upset us...we would just think it was nature and there you have it. But now...we just want to be pregnant so badly and each period relives the last time you were bleeding. And it all sucks so much. I'm sorry, Erin, I really am. And there is nothing else to say or anything that will help. Patience...which I don't have either, so you don't have to think I'm giving any advice that I myself am following!
Hope and love to you,
Aimee
I'm so sorry too Erin. This sucks.
My cycle seems to be doing this a lot too, it's only four months for me. Sometimes I think it may always have done this, I've never been counting days before, it just happened. I have really found the ovulation monitor a blessing. I have been ovulating really randomly and if we were actually TTC at the moment there's no way I would have realized that was the case.
I'm really sorry Erin, I was so hoping to hear of a BFP for you.
thank you all for your kind words....this is just so hard.
coggy what is the monitor that you are using? is it a digital one, or strips? how often are you using it?
i tried a few different opk's, they seem to be WRONG!
I'm using the clear blue fertility monitor. I find it pretty good really. I struggle with the ovulation strips you buy, when I'm reading them I'm like is it positive, isn't it?
The monitor you use strips and stick it in the monitor and it tracks your cycle. I think they say it's 96% accurate at predicting your cycle. It's not cheap but I think it's worth the money.
for the first time you use it you use 10 or so strips it starts asking you for them on day 6. You just switch it on each day and it says whether you need to test. After the first month it gets more accurate with your cycle.
I use it at the moment to not get pregnant so it continues to be useful.
I was certainly hoping for better news for you too. I remember how hard it was to wait and try and I haven't been through what you have. It does seem like eternity to get pregnant sometimes... About your cycle you sound much more normal than a lot of people out there. I was pretty much just like you, varied a few days but pretty much right on track. What I did find out (I'll spare the details!) is that I didn't get pregnant when I thought I would and did when I thought I wouldn't. I know that doesn't make much sense. Back in my day there were not as many things to figure out when you were ovulation but one sign for me I found out was a mucus discharge. I know for a fact I got pregnant a few days after my period, we had a honeymoon baby but I never thought I'd get pregnant then. If you are suppose to get pregnant mid-cycle then I never did. I think you are A-OK and I know the waiting is so hard but I want you to know that I care over here in WI and without a doubt it will happen, it really will!! Hang in there Erin!!
I'm so sorry hun! What the Fuck!
This was totally happening to me too, so I started taking FertileAid supplements to regulate my cycle, I did a detox cleanse AND that's why I'm on BC for a couple of months to regulate my cycles out.
My doctor also ordered bloodwork for Oxytocin check and pituitary stuff (but I have yet to actually go over there)
The FertileAid was what someone recommended because she was having the same issues postpartum so she took it for a couple months and then go pregnant again.
(I ordered it from earlypregnancytests.com)
Ack! So frustrating. I thought this month was for sure your guys' month!
I'm sorry too! That really sucks!
I keep my fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you.
That just sucks. I'm so sorry.
But please don't think your body is just somehow broken - although I have felt that, too.
It's totally normal for your cycle to vary by a few days - or more - month by month. What is cool about charting, though, is that the post-ovulatory luteal phase is the same length every month for most women. That means that you can know when you're really "late."
Have you read Take Charge of Your Fertility?
Some things I've tried - who knows if they helped me get pregnant - are Pre-seed (a lubricant that's supposed to be sperm-friendly) and Robitussin (which boosts cervical fluid) plus, of course, OPKs.
Keep in mind that the strip tests have to be as dark or darker than the control line to be a positive. I found it helpful to keep them, labelled with the date, so you can quickly learn to identify "almost" from positive.
Good luck, Erin.
I was so hoping for good news for you, too, although it will happen soon. My nurse practitioner friend swears by those Instead cups that people use for their period as a means to get pregnant, because the cup kind of holds everything up there while the little swimmers do their business. Just an idea...and I know it totally sucks, but hang in there.
Oh, my love, this was not what I logged on to read. My heart breaks for you. That's the sweet part.
FUCK FUCK FUCK.
That's the not so sweet part.
Sending you love
Carol
I'm really sorry Erin that this month didn't work. It's so hard doing a subsequent pregnancy but when ttc takes time, man, then it really, really is a hard road. I don't have any assvice. It took me from July 05 until Nov/Dec 06 to conceive Little W. and that came after our 'trying to have a 2nd child' journey which began in June 04 but had a break after losing R in March 05. So, in my mind, I feel I waited from June 04 until Aug 07 for a take home baby. Man it was hard. I tried everything and in retrospect I think (for me) cervical mucus (spinnbarkeit) was a more reliable indicator of ovulation than tracking cycles or charting temperatures. I know how desperate I felt wanting each cycle to be the one. I know how broken I felt when cycles didn't work. It's really tough and hard to stay positive and spontaneous about baby-making sex when it feel so important and imperative to timing etal. I kept ttc every month because I couldn't not ttc. not ttc made me feel sadder than the ttc. Erin, know I'm thinking of you and wishing this doesn't take very long. You deserve a lucky break. (())
I'm so sorry, Erin. I was feeling so hopeful for you this month. I know after my miscarriage last year and before we conceived Callum (who was stillborn), my cycles were TOTALLY out of whack. I didn't use a ovulation predictor though. I just started having sex with the husband 10 days after the first day of my period and then every second day thereafter for 8 more days. I am going to do this again when we decide to try again. I figure it worked two times before...I'm hoping it will again.
I'm so sorry, again. I hope next month will be it for you...although, I am sure that really means nothing to you right now.
I'm sorry Erin. Hopefully next month will work. I think that clear blue monitor is good (it's like 250 bucks) but I do think it works.
Other than that, just do what c suggested start after your period and go every second day, for 10 days or so.
The good thing about the monitor, is that you can concentrate your efforts around a couple of days.
Try this book (I'm sure you can get it from the library). I thought I knew what I was doing, but I learned quite a few things from this one:
Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control and Pregnancy Achievement by Toni Weschler
VERY helpful.
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